As Part of the Unapologetically Me Project I’m Giving Up “Sorry”…
I apologize all the time. It’s actually ridiculous. If I tried counting how many times I say “sorry” every single day I would probably be blown away… it could be in the dozens, possibly over 70 or even 100. And every time I apologize I am giving up a little bit of my power, my self-love, my confidence.
Apologizing all the time for every little thing can easily and quickly erode your self-esteem, your self-worth, your value. It can make you feel like your opinion doesn’t matter, like you’re not worth the space, time or energy you’re asking for, or like it’s not worth it.
Sometimes you can reframe your engagement with this other person: say “excuse” me instead of “sorry” when you bump into someone on the train.
Or don’t say anything at all. I know, it can get awkward when silence sneaks into a conversation, argument or discussion, and maybe you just want to fill the space so you apologize – for yourself, the situation, your opinion, or nothing at all.
Honestly, I come up with excuses for things that I haven’t even been called out for yet.